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I know I could be a better listener. It’s difficult, though, and takes patience and practice, but it’s worth it, since being a good listener is the hallmark of a true friend. If you want to be a better friend, then try to be a better listener! I know I’m working on this one…
2. Make time
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I know our lives are incredibly busy, but friends are important, so we need to try to make time for them. Even if it’s just a phone call or a text message once a week, let your friends know you’re thinking of them, more than just a quick note on their Facebook wall.
3. RememberWhen is your bestie’s birthday? What was the name of that guy last year who broke her heart? Does she love or hate the color pink? Is she allergic to strawberries, or blackberries? Being a good friend means remembering, because it shows you were listening, and that you care. If you don’t have a good memory, that’s okay. Remembering birthdays can be as simple as keeping a calendar.
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Good friends know when something important is happening, and they work to commemorate it, either with something simple as photos, or planning a shower or party. Who else would organize a surprise birthday party than a good friend?
5. Don’t judge
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There’s a fine line between trying to help a friend and making her feel like you’re judging her. It’s natural to want to protect a friend you think it making a mistake, but don’t judge, or you’ll drive her away.
6. Know when to advise, when to commiserateIf your best friend is calling to complain about how awful her job is, it’s important to know when to commiserate, and when to offer advice. Sometimes, she just wants to hear that you agree, her job sucks. This is a bad time to offer advice!
7. Know when to say yes, when to say noSometimes to be a good friend you have to say yes when you really want to say no, and sometimes, you have to say no when you know your friend wants you to say yes. Don’t mother her, but know when it’s time to stop enabling behavior, and when it’s totally fine to let her run wild… like at the shoe store!